So, you've got a new baby and it didn't arrive with a manual. Maybe your partner is going back to work, the visits from friends are tailing off and your family live the other side of the country. You keep hearing about the "village" which helps your to raise your child but there's no sign of those buggers anywhere.
That's where I come in.
Think of me as your fairy godmother in the first few weeks and months of your journey. I'm not there to take over, I'm there to support you as you find your feet, help you whilst you develop your own parenting style and listen to you when you're having a shit day.
I will help you look after your baby, your home and most importantly, your sanity.
What I do as your postnatal doula.
Raising small people is emotional right?
I can help you to navigate your feelings around your birth, the postnatal period, being a new parent, your relationships (with your partner, your body, your family....you name it, we've all cried about it at some point in our lives)
Sometimes you just need an non judgemental ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on.
I have great ears and shoulders, I also make a mean cuppa and have time to listen to you, and more importantly to actually hear you.
I want you to be able to concentrate on becoming an epic parent.
So whilst you're doing that I can do the other stuff, like running the hoover around, loading the dishwasher, sorting out the never ending washing, (I'm not going to lie, I have a slight washing obsession, I love the whole process, especially ironing)
I'll turn my hand to anything which is part of the day to day house stuff so you can gently recover from your birth, get some rest and you'll have the space and time to devote to your new baby.
I will leave your home knowing that you've had a shower, a nap and that you've eaten some lunch or prepared the veggies for your dinner. You see, I'm your own personal fairy godmother, just a bit more sweary.
Maybe you need to get to appointments, you are unable to drive, you are terrified of feeding in public, you have an older child who needs attention or your baby screams every time you try to put them down.
These are all common issues which are easily solved by having me there beside you, another pair of hands, calm and organised.
I am a very practical person and can turn my hand to most things when needed. Whether it's building flat packed furniture or doing your food shop.
I can run errands for you, be your driver or just help you get organised to go somewhere.
I'll also watch your baby whilst you attend appointments if you like.
I've been doing this job a long time.
I've worked with families under many different circumstances and with very different requirements. You're all individual and have your own journeys to go on and that's why I love this job.
I'm not going to tell you how to parent and I'm certainly not going to judge you. I am going to help you find the best ways for you and your new family and I'll be helping you to trust your own instincts and do your own research.
I'm also pretty shit-hot at sign-posting to relevant classes, services, treatments etc as I have many local connections in the birth and parenting world.
My Services & Fees
I am currently offering postnatal support on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays in the Bournemouth, Poole and Christchurch areas.
My hours can be pretty flexible between 8.30am and 5.30pm with a minimum of 3 hours per session. If you need help at different times please ask, I may still be able to help you.
Postnatal support usually starts in the first weeks after your birth, starting at several times a week at first then gradually tapering off as your confidence and your baby grows BUT I consider the postnatal period to last for months and you can call on me for support at any time.
Even if it's just short term, for example you are unwell, your partner/family support is away, you have a special event or if you just need extra support.
My hourly rate is £20 (including travel expenses, insurance etc..)
The best thing for us to do is have a chat first. Websites are great but the real me is much funnier, friendlier and loves a good coffee and a chinwag.